Recognize the signs of a toxic relationship

Mental Health and Wellness
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Toxic relationships are filled with more bad experiences than good ones and can happen with anyone close to you. They involve harmful behaviors that create an imbalance of power, leading to control and manipulation.

"The relationship feels draining, one-sided and confusing," explains Leslie Forsyth, LCSW, with Main Line Health's Women's Emotional Wellness Center. "You might feel like you're walking on eggshells and you can't be your true self when you're with them."

The emotional effects of toxic relationships

Toxic relationships can harm your emotional well-being, leading to feelings of exhaustion and confusion. The constant need to be cautious and anticipate reactions can leave you feeling on edge and unable to relax.

"The fear of triggering a negative response in the other person keeps you in a state of heightened anxiety, leading to emotional instability," says Forsyth. "Additionally, this type of relationship may cause you to second-guess your feelings and perceptions, creating a sense of self-doubt."

Feeling overwhelmed by negative emotions can impact your daily life as well, making it difficult to focus or feel happy. It can also lower your self-esteem and make it hard to trust and connect with others.

You may experience physical manifestations

Toxic relationships not only cause emotional stress but can also lead to physical health problems. Chronic stress from these interactions can result in headaches, digestive issues and muscle tension as your body reacts to the ongoing anxiety. These physical symptoms are your body's way of telling you to take care of yourself.

Toxic relationships can harm your health by disrupting your sleep, causing fatigue and weakening your immune system. Changes in appetite, such as overeating or losing interest in food, may also occur.

"These physical signs should not be ignored, as they indicate the strain the toxic relationship is putting on your health," says Forsyth. "It's important to address these symptoms to protect both your mental and physical well-being."

Behavioral signs to watch for

In toxic relationships, one person may put in more effort than the other, leading to feelings of frustration and resentment. The toxic individual may also constantly criticize or belittle you, causing a decrease in confidence.

Toxic individuals display controlling behavior by trying to dictate your actions and decisions, which can make you feel trapped and limit your independence. They may also lack genuine support and empathy, dismissing your feelings and leaving you feeling invalidated and alone.

Toxic people often stir up drama over small things, causing constant tension and making it difficult for you to feel at ease. This disrupts your peace and well-being, showing the unhealthy nature of the relationship.

Reaching out for support

So what can you do? First and foremost, if you're in physical danger, seek help. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24/7 for guidance at 1.800.799.7233. But even if the characteristics of a toxic relationship aren't physical, you can still seek guidance for making the next step.

Getting help from friends is one option. Talking to a trusted friend can give you a new viewpoint and make you feel better. Being part of a supportive group can also make you feel less alone and offer valuable advice.

"If you're struggling with emotional challenges, seeking help from therapists and counselors can provide you with personalized strategies and coping mechanisms," says Forsyth. "Places like Main Line Health's Women's Emotional Wellness Center offer the support and resources you need to navigate your feelings and make informed decisions."

Taking steps forward for healthy relationships

To create a healthier future, set boundaries to protect your emotional and physical well-being. Assess your safety in talking to toxic people and establish clear limits. If needed, limit interactions or end the relationship. Practice self-care by engaging in uplifting activities and surrounding yourself with positive influences.

Remember: it's important to focus on your well-being, even if it requires tough choices. Every step towards leaving a toxic relationship leads to a happier and healthier future. You deserve relationships that are respectful, joyful and supportive.

Next steps:

Make an appointment with a behavioral health provider
Learn more about the Women's Emotional Wellness Center
Your primary care doctor's role in your mental health
Contact The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1.800.799.7233

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