As much as parents might want to hurry their little ones to the next stage of development, most children follow the same general growth and development pattern that can't be changed much.
Child development experts say it's not possible to get a child to progress to a new stage of development before he or she is ready. And progress can differ by weeks or even months among children of the same age.
So, if a child balks at weaning, says only one word, screams when mommy leaves the room, and skips crawling to walk, should parents panic? Not at all. Children are programmed to learn and grow up. A parent's job, says the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), is to nurture, encourage and provide a stimulating environment.
Forget about what siblings did at the same age. Children are like fingerprints—no two are the same.
The AAP offers the following developmental milestones in its guidelines for parents. The group emphasizes that the milestones described won't always coincide with your child's.
The baby sees faces and simple geometric patterns; recognizes his mother's voice; has strong "grasp" reflex; follows moving objects with his eyes; smiles. The social smile marks a significant connection of nerves. It's an important sign of higher mental function. It means the baby can differentiate between himself and his environment—his socialization has begun.
The infant moves her arms and legs equally well; gurgles and makes other sounds; bats and kicks at objects; learns trust.
The baby plays with his hands; reaches for objects; laughs out loud; rolls over. When it's your child's time to master a new skill such as rolling over, his inborn drive combines with nerve growth and interconnections. Those elements, aided by a stimulating environment, spell success.
The child turns her head at quiet sounds; can bear weight on her legs; holds bottle; experiences "separation anxiety." This occurs when the caregiver leaves the baby momentarily. In the baby's mind, the caregiver no longer exists. The baby cries inconsolably. Playing peek-a-boo is a good way to help your baby through this stage. She needs to learn that people and objects exist, whether she sees them or not.
The child makes "ma-ma" or "da-da" sounds; crawls; pulls himself up; walks holding on to furniture. When a baby's muscle strength and coordination develop in sync with his innate desire to move from point A to point B, he becomes mobile—he's a toddler.
The child walks across a room unassisted; says at least two words; pulls off her shoes; feeds herself and drinks from a cup. These complicated tasks require precise eye and hand coordination.
The child says at least three words (besides "ma-ma" and "da-da"); runs without falling; begins bowel and bladder control; experiences a need to explore. Scientists call this the mastery period. Parents call it the "terrible twos." Wise parents put away breakables, lock cabinets and block stairways, because their child does not have enough self-discipline to resist the urge to climb, jump and explore.
Growing and learning are complex tasks and, while children maneuver through major physical and mental changes, many hit rough spots. But obstacles are usually temporary. With patience, parents can manage successfully as their youngster develops into a strong, healthy young man or woman.
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