Parenting and grandparenting can be an emotional roller coaster. Although you're filled with love for your kids and grandkids, caring for them can also be scary, frustrating, and sometimes downright infuriating. But no matter how riled up you get, it's important to control your anger around youngsters.
The importance of managing anger
It never feels good to rage at someone you love, especially a child. And although anger is a completely natural and healthy emotion, research shows that frequent, uncontrolled anger is associated with heart disease, digestive disorders, insomnia, and other health problems. It's also linked to family violence and aggression.
Anger management not only helps you deal with your child or grandchild in a kind and constructive way, but it also sets a good example of how to handle challenging situations and work out conflicts.
Anger management strategies
When you feel like you're on the verge of losing your temper with a challenging child, rely on anger management strategies to keep your anger from boiling over.
First, try to calm yourself with relaxation techniques, such as:
Next, try action steps that can help you to manage the heated situation:
Taking the long view
Anger management strategies aren't just for use in the heat of the moment. Doing daily meditation or yoga may put you in a calmer, more accepting frame of mind in general. Getting in more exercise can help you relieve some of your everyday stresses so that you can be more relaxed when you're with your children.
Parents and grandparents who can't control their anger and are suffering from relationship problems with children may want to seek professional help for anger management. Health care professionals can help you learn the skills you need to better communicate with children and change any negative thought patterns.
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