Domestic violence affects one out of every four women throughout
their lifetime. It is a form of abuse, which results in the
mistreatment of one person by another. It is a pattern of
control used to physically harm, to induce fear, to prevent a
person from doing what he or she wishes or to force them to
behave against their will.
It occurs in many forms, including physical, emotional, sexual,
social and economic abuse. It can involve a spouse, ex-spouse,
partner, household member, family member, date or friend.
Domestic violence crosses all races, sexual orientations,
religions, socio-economic groups and geography. It is not a
medical or psychological condition; it is a crime, no matter
what kind of relationship you have. Domestic violence does not
tend to stop on its own. It generally gets worse over time, but
there is help for both the abuser and the victim.
Have You Ever Been:
Pushed, shoved, slapped, kicked, pinned down, kept from leaving
a location, or threatened with a weapon?
Forced to have sex or perform sexual acts which were
uncomfortable to you, talked about as a sex object by your
partner, denied affection, or accused of being unfaithful
Taunted by your partner in the name of fun, ignored or had your
feelings ignored, insulted repeatedly, threatened with violence
to you, family members or pets, labeled as stupid, crazy or
Insulted in public, followed from place to place, isolated from
friends and family? Refused money for food, prescriptions or
household needs, locked out of your home, refused
transportation, or have been the target of destroyed personal
property by a loved one?
These are examples of abusive behavior. If you or someone you love is
experiencing abuse, YOU ARE NOT ALONE and we are here to help you.
We Can Help You
Domestic violence counseling by hospital social workers
Assistance in safety planning
Information and assistance in contacting community programs for
counseling, shelter, and legal help
Trained hospital personnel to provide support and medical
treatment for abuse
Educational programs for community groups on domestic violence
You Can Help
If you think you know someone who is being abused, get involved.
Contrary to popular belief, domestic violence is NOT a private issue, it
affects everyone. Victims of abuse are often isolated and do not know
help is available, and are often so stuck in the relationship that they
are not able to get help on their own.
Talk to the person directly about your concerns
Encourage him or her to seek help
Give emotional support, focusing on the person’s strengths
Let the person know your concerns for his or her safety, and
help develop a safety plan
Let him or her know that domestic violence is a crime and there
is legal protection
For more information, call 1.866.CALL.MLH.